Musings

Sun, 07 Aug 2005 06:00:46 -0800

This is it, the end of Blogathon 2005! I made it, thanks in large part to my dear friend Kelly who kept me going through those difficult last 12 hours. He must have been nuts to agree to hang out with me, but I'm sure glad he was/is/did. On my stereo now--They Might Be Giants, "I Palindrome I".

No tip this post, just a whole heap of thank yous. I want to say thank you SO MUCH to my fabulous sponsors--my parents, Lillie, Peter, Dione, John Paul, Shirley, Pattye, Angie, Venis, and Bevin. You guys are fantastic and thank you so much for supporting me and my charity. We raised $285 this year, which considering how late I started is pretty good. Every little bit counts. And if you didn't have a chance to sponsor me, please still go take a look at the great folks at The Global Fund For Women. They do really good work and you can give them money any time, not just when I'm up for 24 hours and loopy.

Well, it's been fun but it's soooo time for bed. Here's Kelly and me crashing out the minute this thing is up. Good night/morning all and thanks for your attention, money, and support!

Sun, 07 Aug 2005 05:29:42 -0800

Etro

Very cute. Good salmon pink. Great contrast with the lime green of the inside. And the beads are so playful. I'd wear these with capris and a lime green top.

I'm doing the 24 hour Blogathon for charity, benefitting The Global Fund for Women. Please click on the "Stay up late. Make a Difference!" button to pledge to my wonderful charity or go to http://www.blogathon.org. Click on "How to Sponsor" and go from there. You can also click on the "webring" to the left, down below the blogathon button, to surf through other sites doing the blogathon. And click on "August" in the archives to the left to see all my postings from this very long day. Thanks all!

Sun, 07 Aug 2005 04:59:49 -0800

Ok, I'm now painting my toenails to stay awake. We also just played Jeopardy online, which didn't really perk us up particularly. On my stereo now--Cake, "Love You Madly".

Online Dating Tip #23
Brush your hair before you take a profile photo.

I'm doing the 24 hour Blogathon for charity, benefiting The Global Fund for Women. Please click on the "Stay up late. Make a Difference!" button to pledge to my wonderful charity or go to http://www.blogathon.org. Click on "How to Sponsor" and go from there. You can also click on the "webring" to the left, down below the blogathon button, to surf through other sites doing the blogathon. And click on "August" in the archives to the left to see all my postings from this very long day. Thanks all!

Sun, 07 Aug 2005 04:30:59 -0800

Faryl Robin

I really like the pale gold of these. Usually gold is so brash, but these are metallic without being loud. I like the black contrast, too. The silk border along the upper is really pretty and unexpected. And the jewel on top adds just the right touch. I'd wear these with some jeans and a black or floral (in the right tones) top.

Sun, 07 Aug 2005 03:59:50 -0800

So sleepy now but fighting it. Kelly's looking pretty droopy too. We're trying to stay perky. On my stereo now--Green Day, "American Idiot".

Online Dating Tip #22

Bad ideas for online dating perpetrated by the new movie, "Must Love Dogs". Someone else posts profiles for the two main characters rather than them posting for themselves. Therefore, the profiles are not accurate. Diane Lane's character's sister posts her profile for her and posts a picture of her graduating high school or college when the character is around 40. This is posting an old photo, which is always bad, and therefore lying about her age, which is also bad. Her father also lies about his age to online daters. Later Diane Lane's character lies about her likes and dislikes, trying to make herself sound good to different segments of society. This is also a lie. Another character corresponds with a teenager "accidentally" posing as a teenager as well. Do I have to say it again? Bad. There were others, but that'll do for now. It's also not a very good movie.

I'm doing the 24 hour Blogathon for charity, benefiting The Global Fund for Women. Please click on the "Stay up late. Make a Difference!" button to pledge to my wonderful charity or go to http://www.blogathon.org. Click on "How to Sponsor" and go from there. You can also click on the "webring" to the left, down below the blogathon button, to surf through other sites doing the blogathon. And click on "August" in the archives to the left to see all my postings from this very long day. Thanks all!

Sun, 07 Aug 2005 03:35:21 -0800

Irregular Choice

These are a little silly but they're also kind of cute. They're certainly cheerful, with the bright yellow flowers. I like the ruffling, which reminds me of Little House on the Prairie. And I'm particularly impressed that they managed to make a kitten heel into a wedge. I'd wear these with a white linen dress at a garden party.

Sun, 07 Aug 2005 02:55:02 -0800

I've had some orange juice and have bounced around a bit to Manu Chau so I'm feeling a little perkier. On the other hand, Kelly's starting to droop. We may have to do some group dancing at some point. On my stereo now--The Mountain Goats, "First Few Desperate Hours".

Online Dating Tip #21

If someone takes the time to email you, send them a response back. Even if you're not interested and not a subscriber, you can send a quick "not interested" non-wink back at him/her. This is why it's better to send an email than a wink--at least you should get a response one way or the other. I think if someone took the time to email you something even slightly thoughtful, it's just common courtesy to let them know whether they have a chance.

Sun, 07 Aug 2005 02:31:09 -0800

Baci

These could almost be something out fo a Russian novel. Just put some fur around the top. But I think they're really lovely. Gorgeous brown suede. Great curvy heel. Pretty ribbon tie. And of course the intriguing half pump/half boot styling. Very tricky but very cool. I would wear these come October and the crisp fall weather with a long tweedy green and brown skirt and a cashmere sweater.

Sun, 07 Aug 2005 02:00:13 -0800

Kelly ran down to 7-11, which is under 2 blocks from here, to get reinforcements. He needed something to drink and he felt it was clear I needed something...we just couldn't figure out what. I went for orange juice, in hope of some natural sugar energy. While he's gone, there's been a pause in TV watching. We were watching Sports Night on DVD (great 1/2 hr comedy show from the late 90's written by Aaron Sorkin, who wrote West Wing). So on my stereo now--Robyn Hitchcock, "Linctus House".

Online Dating Tip #20

Where to meet. Once you've written enough emails back and forth and maybe talked on the phone, if that makes you feel comfortable, the time will come to meet in person. That's what all this has been leading up to. And it's important that you feel comfortable when you do. So pick a neutral place, well-lit and busy preferably, and in a safe neighborhood. You want to pick some place you'll feel safe walking into and out of without an escort, especially if things don't turn out well. A coffee shop is the safe, if a bit boring, choice. You'll rarely feel safer than at Starbucks (unless some SUV decides to slam into it, did anyone hear about that?) It's best to stay away from alcohol for this first meeting (your judgement becomes impaired). It's best to stay away from dinner, as you could end up stuck in a very long meal wiht a very boring person whom you have no chemistry with. Better to have a cup of coffee which turns into the option of another cup then maybe some dinner after if everything goes well. But start with the coffee. And try to meet during the day rather than at night so that it's still daylight when you leave to go home.

Sun, 07 Aug 2005 01:33:04 -0800

John Fluevog

John Fluevog has a way with the funky heel. These are pretty cool, a sort of extreme hourglass shape. The rest of the shoe is just as interesting. Somehow they've managed to make a slingback feel chunky, with the round toe. But they manage to be girly with the warm magenta suede and the orange detailing, especially the teeny orange bow. I'd wear these with some funky jeans and a peasant blouse for a sort of 60's hippie feel.

Sun, 07 Aug 2005 00:59:00 -0800

Kelly's force-feeding me peanut M&Ms now. He's so mean to me. We're still watching Nip/Tuck--2 episodes on in a row. I'm yawning a lot. Trying to come up with something to perk me up.

Online Dating Tip #19

When writing about yourself and what you want in your profile, make sure to stay upbeat. I'm not saying you have to be a cheerleader for single life, but don't complain about how it sucks to still be looking for a relationship. Don't talk about how crappy your life has been lately and how you really just need that special someone to make your life better. Don't talk about how much you doubt anything will come of online dating for you or how embarrassed you are to be online. Everyone reading your ad is online dating, too. If you're pathetic, so are they. Be positive about yourself, your life, and your hopes for the future and your future date/mate.

Sun, 07 Aug 2005 00:33:37 -0800

Stuart Weitzman

This is a classic Stuart Weitzman style, but I usually see it in red. This color is stunning, a light turquoise. These are simply sexy, sleek shoes, pointy toe, serious heel. They're fantastic. I'd have to wear them with something slinky and sexy, a palest gold dress maybe or a long white pencil skirt with a turqoise top.

Sat, 06 Aug 2005 23:59:39 -0800

Ok, getting sleepy now but fighting it. Still drinking Diet Pepsi, I'm a chain drinker. We're watching Nip/Tuck now, at Kelly's request. I've seen them all, but he hasn't.

Online Dating Tip #18

When writing that first email to someone you like, there are a couple of simple things to keep in mind. Don't write your whole life story in the first email--keep it short. Don't express your undying love for your potential date--it's waaaaay too early for that. Do tell him/her why you think you'd be a good match, talk about your similarities, mutual interests, and why you think you fit his/her criteria expressed in his/her profile. And do ask questions, something to give him/her something to respond to when s/he responds.

Sat, 06 Aug 2005 23:33:18 -0800

Steven Madden

Ok, they're a little disco. But they're pretty cool. The spiderwebby straps are very cool and modern. The heel is wedge could be very 70's but is thinner than you would expect, which makes them more sleek and modern. I'd wear these with a black dress and some big silver jewelry.

Sat, 06 Aug 2005 23:02:50 -0800

Kelly and I are no longer green. My face feels tight and soft, like I'm 10 again. On the stereo--Rosemary Clooney, "I've Got a Crush On You".

Online Dating Tip #17

When filling out your profile, it's important to spend some time and fill out all the fields fully. This is your opportunity to let your potential dates know who you are. If you skimp on information, how are you going to interest anyone? The more info you give, the better chance you have of hitting the right note with someone, mentioning an interest that you have in common, or saying just the right thing that will make them wink at or email you. You're not losing anything by filling out all the fields, but you may be losing something by not. Take your time and really do it right.